Love marriages have always been frowned upon in society. They were deemed to be unorthodox and an unnecessary inclusion to our society. The recent trends of increasing divorce rates and rising social problems have been blamed upon nuclear families. Critics conveniently insist that the root cause of all this are love marriages.
Nuclear families, supposedly a result of the growing number of love marriages, deny children the love and care of their grandparents which is essential especially in families where both the parents work. Solitude is the stage where a child will yearn for attention and thus involve himself/herself in unwanted activities in the attempt to be noticed.
A divorce in a family may result in a child being brought up by just one parent. In most cases the parent tries to make up for the absence of the other by showering extra care and concern, which may bring about a complacent attitude in the child. The absence of the other parent will also make an impact on the child’s mentality. Such children in some situations tend to feel like outcasts in society and take rash decisions.
Yet the above mentioned factors do not simply justify the argument that love marriages should be abandoned. This is due to the fact that even arranged marriages have had similar results. The statement that most love marriages end up in divorce is more of a concocted fact than completely true. Divorce is a product of the way of life today rather than that of love marriages. It is without doubt the lifestyle of today’s working man and woman that determines their marital life for the better or the worse.
3 comments:
For a marriage to work, it is the two individuals who have to work on it. Be it a love or an arranged marriage, every couple have their own set of problems. It is how strong they are, how much they understand each other and to what extent they are able to stand by each other that counts for the success or failure of the marriage itself. Not any stoopid hyped up thing that says love marriages are bad!!
Ash D,as you've accurately pointed out,children are also deprived of the companionship of their grandparents too.
Another super article Ash D!! :)
and, before you ask me, yess I am jobless. :P
Man! What an analysis of the family structures! Must have put a whole lot of thought and logic into it! Kudos!
and, before you ask me, yess it is late night (3:48AM) I am sleepless :P
well will say just on thing HMMMM!!!
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